Labels, they are hurtful more than useful

When you were young, did someone give you a label? Did you like it? How did you feel about your label?

Most of us would have received a label or two when we were young.

For unfathomable reasons, kids enjoy assigning different labels to their friends if they fall short of the norm. Most of these labels could be hurtful and even demeaning. They use derogatory words like "dimwit," "shorty," "porky," etc., to label others. This gives those giving out labels a sense of superiority or satisfaction.

Those at the receiving hand may be adversely affected and withdraw from socializing.

For example, having pimples or freckles is part of growing up, and no one welcomes them on our faces. Without any control over how their body works, they become victims of their own bodies. Instead of empathizing with them, some resort to labeling them as "pimple" or "crater face." This unkind label could be distressing to those already struggling with an issue. This labeling can negatively affect a person's self-esteem and mental well-being.

Labels are usually not useful. They can also be hurtful and demeaning to the one receiving them. For those who already have low self-esteem, these labels might even take them to a new low. Some will resign themselves to the labels and start living it out. Hence, it is important to be mindful of the impact our words can have on others and to treat everyone with empathy and respect.

Positive Labels

While not all labels are bad, some labels can be positive, too.

Labels like "smart", "cool" etc.

Labels, even if they are positive, may not be welcomed by their receiver. You should check with the recipient before uttering them. Not everyone welcomes such attention.

Uttering positive labels in a sarcastic tone could turn a well-meaning label into a negative one— something no one welcomes.

Acceptable labels​

There are certain instances when the use of labels is acceptable.

Labels are acceptable when used to describe a person's occupation, for instance, Mr. Smith is an electrician, John is a bass guitar player, etc.

Using labels to define a person's role in an organization is also acceptable. For example, Dave is a director, Mary is the head of the department, etc.

These labels are acceptable as they define a person's work role rather than a "deficiency" in a person.

In some circles, like the world of wrestling, it is commonplace to use labels to define a personality. It is common to see performers with names like "The Undertaker," "Hulk Hogan," and "The Rock." their personalities coined the labels themselves; the labels were not thrust upon them. Hence, the labels are accepted and even appreciated. They are not deemed offensive to the person being labeled.

Labeling others hurts the Giver too

Dishing out negative labels may give one a momentary sense of superiority or satisfaction. However, in the long game, it hurts the giver as much as the receiver.

Life sometimes has a funny way of making us eat humble pie.

Imagine a few years later when everyone is much older and your paths cross. What do you think will go through the mind of the person you labeled when they have a chance encounter with you? How do you think they will feel?

Worst still, if the person has risen to a position of power, and you need their help?

People remember how they were treated. They may resort to an eye for an eye when given a chance.

Conclusion​

Labels may start innocently. They could, however, morph into something detrimental and even deadly later. Some with a ready low self-esteem may even be driven to commit suicide. This is especially true of young people who may be vulnerable as they do not yet know how to manage their feelings. With no one to confide in, they might give up on life.

Instead of being hurtful, we should aim to be encouraging and motivational. We should use motivating words to spur our fellow human beings to greater heights. If they succeed one day because of your encouraging words, they will remember you for positively impacting their lives.

Remember, people are wired to remember how you make them feel.